Over - Reaction Leads To Insecurity.....Times Of India 19th Jan 2010

 
 

 

Over-reaction leads to insecurity

By Dr.Kapil Kakar

 

Avoid trying too hard to get out of the current mess at the earliest. Patiently observe and see in which directions the things are going and the reasons behind, says Dr Kapil Kakar



    People face various situations and circumstances which may leave them with a feeling of hopelessness or helplessness. The insecurity may be related to innumerable materialistic things or even relationships. As a result, often unconsciously, panic attack triggers, making the individual look vulnerable and anxious.

Faith Believe in your abilities and acknowledge the fact that you have the capability of overcoming the odds which are making you insecure. Instead of hoping for things to fall in place on their own, take a vow to resolve them by yourself. Pen down ten reasons to prove to yourself that you have adequate competency to overcome the insecurity.

Confront Confront the situation and dig deep by questioning yourself, ‘why these circumstances arose in the first place’. What actions or thoughts have lead to this feeling of insecurity and is making you feel miserable. You must be able to appreciate your shortcomings resulting in such circumstances. Make a promise that such mistakes will not be repeated.

Laws of nature Acknowledge the fact that your actions are in your capacity but the results are not. The results of all the actions are taken care of by the laws of nature which are unbiased and neutral for every one of us. Be willing to accept the circumstances as the result of your inappropriate actions in the past. Have absolute faith that from now on, your actions will be desirable resulting in desirable circumstances and soon as the laws of nature will bless us with favourable circumstances.

Act patiently It is the over-reaction to a situation which multiplies ones insecurity. Let loose and avoid trying too hard to get out of the current mess at the earliest. Patiently observe and see in which directions the things are going and the reasons behind. If the situation is further making you insecure, identify the catalyst and start by addressing it. Avoid acting on all the reasons as you may be in the danger of entangling yourself further.